What books do you suggest to your clients when it comes to end-of-life and funeral planning issues? I’ve got a bunch of great resources on my bookshelf. Here are a few recommendations for your consideration, with direct links to Amazon: Jane Brody, weekly personal health columnist for The New York Times, has written prolifically on living a healthy lifestyle. As she so practically notes in the preface to her book, “…even the healthiest of lives eventually must come to an end. In this book I … [Read more...] about Recommended Reading: Books for A Good Goodbye
A Good Goodbye: Funeral Planning for Those Who Don’t Plan to Die
What would more likely get your clients to make pre-need funeral plans: a real life tragedy or a light romantic comedy? Consider these two approaches. The family of Josh Powell, the man who killed his two sons in an explosive house fire in Washington state, recently said he will not be buried in the same cemetery as the children. Powell's mother, wracked by grief, realized no one else was planning the disposition of Josh Powell's remains. All the attention was focused on his two murdered … [Read more...] about Family Clashes Over Funeral Plans
Estate planning, as well as funeral planning, is generally a hard conversation to start. People are reluctant to talk about their mortality. There’s actually a psychological term for this reluctance: the Terror Management Theory. It’s based on the work of Dr. Ernest Becker and his 1973 Pulitzer Prize-winning work, The Denial of Death. The Terror Management Theory posits that all human behavior is ultimately motivated by the fear of death. Death creates anxiety: it can strike at unexpected and … [Read more...] about How Can We Start a Reluctant Conversation?
I have walked through the valley of the shadow of death. After 30 funerals in 30 days, to quote The Grateful Dead, what a long, strange trip it’s been. No, my circle of family and friends has not been decimated. I did not personally know any of these people, but met them through the local obituaries. I documented their goodbye services on The Family Plot Blog as the 30 Funerals in 30 Days Challenge. As the self-proclaimed “Doyenne of Death,” I undertook this challenge for three reasons: To … [Read more...] about 30 Funerals in 30 Days
On Halloween, October 31, we celebrate ghosts and scary things. The spirits of the deceased are remembered on November 1 and 2, All Saints Day and All Souls Day, respectively, also known as the Day of the Dead celebration. Yet, you might not know this October 30 is the 12th annual Create a Great Funeral Day. Before Halloween ghosts and Day of the Dead spirits can go a-haunting, there’s usually a funeral or memorial service – the party no one wants to plan. Confronting the idea of our own death … [Read more...] about October 30 Is Create a Great Funeral Day – Don’t Fear The Reaper